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How to Tackle Drama at School and Focus on the Important Things

 

By Dhwani Desai


Drama is prevalent no matter what grade level you’re in or who you are acquainted with. In this post, I will share some ideas on handling/stopping drama through the words of one of my friends who's had experience with her own drama. Before I start, I just want to give a special thanks to my friend Vee Nguyen for the inspiration, ideas, and advice that I get to share with you all. (I am going to leave a link to her Instagram - if you want to go follow her – at the end of this post or in the comment section of this blog.) Every time I’m quoting one of her ideas expressed exactly, I will parenthesize it. 

Find the root cause

The first and most important step is to identify who the person at fault is. If it’s yours, you should apologize to whoever was concerned or hurt. For example, if you cheated on a test and blame it on someone else causing them to get in trouble, apologize to them and try to mend your relationship with them. Don’t rub it in their face or deny doing anything wrong. If it’s their fault, explain how this affects you, ask them why they did it, and if it hurt you badly, ask for an apology. If they don’t listen to you and you keep replying, trying to fight with them, that creates drama. 

Dealing with drama

Drama can be prevented if the people involved in the drama would let it go, move on, or find a way to resolve it through reasonable and polite conversation. If someone that you were involved with continues harassing you about whatever you did or whatever they think you did, politely explain to them your point of view on the situation and ask them to let it go. If they continue to blame you, try blocking or ignoring them. These people want attention, don’t give them that. If they resort to violence, please, PLEASE, don’t remain silent. Tell a parent, teacher, guardian, sibling, or someone else you trust about what’s going on. 

Negative effects of drama

There are many negative influences that drama and “petty conflicts” have on people. To name a few, it can “distract you from personal growth and academic success.” If you’re so caught up in defending yourself or blaming someone else, more of your attention is taken away from your assignments and homework, causing problems for yourself. I love the way my friend quoted this, and I just had to add it in, “anybody who [starts petty drama or fights] has the intellectual depth of a donkey trying to comprehend quantum physics with a carrot as a tutor.” And she’s right. Be civil about drama, don’t make it your whole world. When dealing with drama always focus on yourself and your own personal goals. Take deep breaths and make sure you anchor your mind towards passing your classes and school overall.   

Conclusion

The four steps needed to relax and get away/stop drama are: “stepping back, self-reflection, focusing on yourself, and moving on.” Stepping back entails getting away from the drama instead of staying involved in it. Give yourself a “mental break.” When self-reflecting, focus on your faults in the situation and ways you can improve yourself after the drama. Don’t think there is none, because there’s always room to improve. Next, focus on yourself, your career, “life goals and what makes [you] happy.” Finally, forget about the drama and move on from it. Acknowledge how it made you better. The four steps needed to relax and get away/stop drama are: “stepping back, self-reflection, focusing on yourself, and moving on.” Stepping back entails getting away from the drama instead of staying involved in it. Give yourself a “mental break.” When self-reflecting, focus on your faults in the situation and ways you can improve yourself after the drama. Don’t think there is none, because there’s always room to improve. Next, focus on yourself, your career, “life goals and what makes [you] happy.” Finally, forget about the drama and move on from it. Acknowledge how it made you better. 

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